Thought Hacking 101

You’ve probably heard some version of the phrase “we become what we think.” I’ve heard it for years in different variations probably all starting with watching “The Law of Attraction” when I was 16. It wasn’t until last week that I was reading Self-Coaching 101 that I fully understood the meaning.

First the book shows you HOW your thoughts lead to results, and then it gives you a step-by-step guide to changing your results by changing your thoughts.

It looks like this.

  1. Circumstance
  2. Thought
  3. Feeling
  4. Action
  5. Result

 

  1. Circumstances

 

A circumstance can be anything really. You stub your toe. Your boss tells you you’re getting a raise. A homeless person spits on you. You see a bird. Your wife is late for your birthday dinner. Etc.

Let’s stay with the last one as an example. Your wife is late for your birthday dinner.

 

  1. Thought

Next, we have a thought associated with the circumstance. Once you realize that your wife is late for your birthday dinner, you might think something like “She forgot about my birthday. She never used to forget my birthday. She doesn’t love me as much as she used to, and we aren’t as close as we used to be.”

 

  1. Feeling 

Next is the feeling associated with that thought. Now first realize what just happened. Your wife being late didn’t MAKE YOU feel anything. First you had a thought about your wife being late, and that is what will make you feel something. People cannot make us feel anything. Period.

Now let’s assume that hose thoughts make you feel scared, sad, and a little angry even.

 

  1. Action 

You say “Fuck it, I’m over this birthday dinner.” When she does come home, you’ve already withdrawn. You’re passive aggressive with her and a little rude. Even though she says “I’m so sorry baby my boss brought me into a long meeting just as I was about to leave, and I couldn’t’ even call to tell you I’d be late” you stay upset because you’d already made up your mind.

 

  1. Result 

She get’s upset because she has no idea where the attitude is coming from, and after 30 minutes of you being rude and withdrawn she storms off into another part of the house.

Notice how this result only confirms your original thoughts.

Now that I’ve given you that framework, I’ll show you exactly how you can change your results by first replacing your negative thought by a positive thought you believe. I suggest writing these down. Here we go:

 

  1. Circumstance

Your wife is late for your birthday dinner.

 

  1. Thought

This is where the work is done, and it all starts with awareness. This is the moment where we do have a choice. We don’t have to believe the first thought that comes to our minds. It’s just a thought. The problem is that most of us are so unaware, that we think we are our thoughts. First, take a deep breath and realize you are not your thoughts. You have the ability to focus on whatever thoughts you want.

So create a positive thought that you can believe.

“I’m sure she just got caught up in a meeting and is very excited to celebrate my birthday with me.”

If this still doesn’t quite fit well, keep trying on different thoughts until you find one that you believe, and has no negativity tied to it.

Watch how this changes the end result.

 

  1. Feeling 

Joy, Love, and excitement to hang out with your woman.

 

  1. Action 

When she walks in the door you throw your arms around her and say how good it is to see her.

 

  1. Result

She tells you “I’m so sorry baby my boss brought me into a long meeting just as I was about to leave, and I couldn’t’ even call to tell you I’d be late.” You say “No problem that’s what I figured!” (Notice how this confirms your original thought)

You have a great meal, drink some wine, and then have hot-sweaty-passionate sex with your wife.

 

Again, it all starts with the awareness of the fact that we are not our thoughts. I highly recommend writing a few of these down. It will help you do it in your head later.

This Too Will Pass

This Too Will Pass

Early on in my recovery from drug addiction I learned this simple thought and it has stuck as one of the best reminders that whatever difficult time I’m going through no matter how awful will indeed pass…eventually. Sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly, but it will always pass and brighter days will come.

At first it was difficult to believe as times had been dark for so long. I would go to this meeting and there was this guy who was way to happy all the time and would constantly repeat two phrases that would annoy me to the point of wanting to punch him. It was always “This too will pass, and more will be revealed!” For someone in a dark place to hear this from an overly jubilant old man over and over again was nearly too much….I would think to myself, “when will you pass?”

This went on for months. Every time I would share something about myself I was struggling with, he would come up to me after and say those damn words so happily..”This too will pass, and more will be revealed!!” I love this man deeply for repeating himself far too many times!

He was right.

The dark times always pass and brighter days do come.

I’ve learned tools to make that happen quicker sometimes and even when it persists I know they will pass if I just do my best to keep putting one foot in front of the other.

I remember the first time in that group I shared something positive that was finally happening in my life and he still came up after and said those words…”This too will pass, and more will be revealed!!”

He was right about that too.

The good times will give way to the tougher times. It’s how we grow. It’s all part of life’s great cycle. We don’t get one without the other. Enjoy both for what they are. Work hard through the tough times and work hard through the good times. Feel both in their entirety and ride those good waves out as long as you can.

Be reminded of the bigger picture of your life and practice full presence in each small moment. Because good or bad, bright or dark, growth or stagnation….”This too will pass, and more will be revealed!!!”

You Make You Feel

External factors are never responsible for making you feel emotions. You aren’t sad because of what your boyfriend said, angry because of the girl that ignored you, or jealous because of someone getting the job you wanted. There is no person or thing that can make you feel something – you are in control.
Those feelings come from the thought that you created afterwards. Thoughts like:

“He doesn’t love me”
“She was trying to be rude to me on purpose”
“I wasn’t good enough to get that job”

Those thoughts fuel the fire and are 100% under your own control. Try and catch yourself thinking those negative thoughts and choose a positive thought that you truly believe instead. Try:

“He would never intentionally hurt my feelings – he loves me”
“She probably has a lot going on in her personal life”
“I will be okay and work hard to get a job I love”

That positive thought will result in a calmer attitude, more rational actions, and likely a happier more successful you!

Creating a Championship Team

Building a great team is about getting the right people on the bus, putting them in the right seat, and then giving them the resources to do great work. 

The Right People on the Bus

In Daniel Pink’s book Drive he classifies people into 3 groups. A, B, and C players.

A “C” player is someone who rarely does what is expected. They are late, sloppy, lazy, and negatively affect the culture of the team. NEVER hire a “C” player.

A “B” player is someone who meets the minimum expectations and nothing else. Shows up on time, gets mediocre work done, then clocks out. “B” players are not typically internally motivated and will need you to manage them. Some positions may be ok for a “B” player, but nothing that has to do with creativity, community, or leadership.

An “A” player is someone that goes above and beyond what is expected. They don’t do this for increased pay or notoriety but because they simply do the best they can do in every arena of life. With sufficient education and direction, they are self-managing and create great work. ALWAYS hire “A” players when possible

 

Finding the Right Seat

Once you’ve got the right people on the bus, make sure they are in the right seat. In other words, make sure they are doing what they want to do as it relates to your vision. You may have an “A” player in an admin role that simply hates managing and detail-oriented work. No matter how hard he/she tries, the work simply won’t be as good as if someone passionate about admin work was doing it.

Two things to try with employees:

  1. Give them the Kolbe test (take it yourself too) to learn about their conation – their natural way of getting things done. I learned that I am almost as high as they come in quick start (idea generation, project starter, etc) and as low as they come on follow through. There is no “good” or “bad” when it comes to conation. It just is. So I learned that I have to team up with people with a higher follow through that can make sure projects get finished and we stay on task.
  2. Ask them what they want to do. A good question to ask: What kind of work do you feel you could do for hours without getting tired of it?

Someone doing mediocre work might just mean that they are in the wrong seat. If you know you’ve got an “A” player, then just keep searching for that right spot on the team for them.

 

Make sure they know the vision, then let them take the reigns 

As the leader, it’s important to constantly remind your team of the vision. With that said, we know that one of the main motivations of man (and woman) is autonomy. In other words, keep telling them where you want to go, and let them do it their way.

Some of us like lots of structure, and some of us feel suffocated by any of it. Find out how much your team member likes and give that to them. Then let them complete the rest their own way.

The ability to make our own decisions and have more “say-so” over our jobs WILL significantly improve the quality of our work.

Why You Should Wake up Early

Due to traveling almost 50% of the year it is so hard for me to get into a solid and consistent routine. It’s easy to feel like I am on vacation even though it might be for work, or for a different purpose. I say to myself “I will be able to get back into routine when I am home” even though I know deep down that I will be home for a week until I have to leave again. So I eat out at restaurants, sleep in, and go to bed late.

Recently, I made a commitment with Michael to wake up each day at 7am (he wakes up at 6am). I realized that this is one thing I can control no matter where I am, and one change that I know I can make. After a couple of weeks being consistent and actually following through I see how this is the best decision I could have made for my focus, productivity, and over all mood.

Have you ever started you day knowing you have 15 minutes to get showered and dressed, then maybe 10 minutes to make breakfast that you will have to eat on the go, just to get to work right on time? Then you get to work flustered from the rush, frustrated, and it takes you 30 minutes to get your focus together and start working which may in turn force you to stay 30 minutes later than you should. That feeling is best described as trying to catch up with a day that has already started. I have been there – for years. I know how tempting it is to hit the snooze button when you technically don’t need to be up for another hour. I even used to revel in how amazing that 45 minutes of extra sleep felt.

In the book “The Perfect Day Formula” – Craig Ballantyne, he says something along the lines of “Do you really want the first decision you make in your day to be hitting snooze? What does that say about how the day will go?” and this really resonated with me. Sure, it is hard to get out of bed but once you’re up you are ahead of the day! You can casually get dressed, take a shower, put on a pot of coffee and sit down to relax and enjoy your morning ritual. This is an opportunity for you to do the things you “don’t have time for” whether it be reading, writing, art, or brainstorming a side project.

For me this has been a game changer. I wake up, get dressed, sit to read or draw, and sip on coffee while I wait for breakfast to be ready. Once it is time to start working I am relaxed, and feel like I am ahead of the day. There is no longer a 30 minute “get focused” period of time, I can get right into it and in most cases I will finish early!

If you can’t imagine getting up at 6 or 7am try just getting up 15 minutes earlier than you normally do. Do this for 7 days straight and see how it makes you feel.

Let me know how it goes!

 

 

Conscious Acts of Kindness

My parents taught me to be a kind person, and to do things for others without being asked or expecting anything in return. The lengths I’ve seen them both go for a complete stranger is inspiring.   However, it wasn’t until I was recovering from drug addiction that I realized the power of serving others.

After my last relapse in 2008, my chief concern in life was to overcome the craving for drugs and alcohol. Some days it completely consumed me, and for months later some event would trigger that craving suddenly.

I worked the steps of AA repeatedly, went to hundreds of meetings and therapy sessions, and engaged with tons of different sober friends. But the one thing I attribute most to my success in recovery – serving others.

The final step in the AA book talks about serving others, and I took this VERY seriously. I worked with dozens of other alcoholics taking them through the steps. I let 5 different homeless people live with me at various times, a few of them for months at a time to help them get clean.

I was so self-centered at the time, always feeling sorry for myself, angry at the world, and in general pretty depressed.

When I started to focus more on others my mindset started to shift. This is not at all to say I stopped thinking of myself. Just the act of doing more things for other people gave me a different perspective on life.

I started to become aware of other people’s struggles, fears, hopes, desires, dreams, etc. I learned that my problems weren’t unique, and rather than feeling alone I felt a part of.

My good friend Doug taught me how to infuse this lesson into every aspect of my life. He’d be at a restaurant, and would strike up the deepest conversation with the waiter about what his dream in life was. By the end of the conversation the waiter would be glowing. He’d do the same with a homeless person or college professor.

 

Why should you do this?

On one hand, I have the unpopular belief that we are all connected in some way. We are the same thing just living in a different meat suit, with different past experiences, looking through a different set of eyes. So in that sense I think we owe it to each other to be as loving and helpful as possible.

The more direct, empirically proven reason is that when we help others WE feel happier and better about ourselves. Feeling like you are a good person doesn’t suck.

Humans are hardwired for connection, and by helping others we feel connected to them. Some psychologists say it’s a core need up there with food and water.

So help yourself by helping others.

Productivity – How to Get More Done in Less Time

By now, many people know that multi-tasking kills productivity. The problem is most people don’t know how to prevent too much information from coming in, and they end up multi-tasking anyway. Here are a few things that have helped me tremendously.

 

Batching – This is the absolute best thing I’ve ever found for productivity. Batching is simply grouping similar tasks into one, highly productive session. You can use the following technique for any activity from answering days worth of emails at once, to writing blog articles, to cleaning your house.

  1. Set a timer between 30-90 minutes. I would suggest starting out on the lower end, as most people don’t have the attention span at first to stay focused for 90 minutes.
  1. Turn your phone on airplane, unless the batched activity is phone calls.
  1. Make sure to use the restroom, grab water, and whatever else you might need for the 30-90 minutes.
  1. Begin working, and don’t stop until your timer goes off.

I will go through periods of time of being very diligent with this, and times when I’m not. I was reminded how powerful it is the other day on a plane ride to Pensacola. I realized I had no service on my phone, which prompted me to batch some work. In 2x 60 minute batching sessions I got done what I thought was going to take two or three days.

 

Eat that frog is a Bryan Tracy book I read years ago. The book can be summed up by saying that we should do the most “mission critical” item(s) first thing in our workday.

Most people have the most mental energy and focus in the earlier part of the day.

As the day goes on many things may come up, we may get distracted, etc.

To practice the “Eat that Frog” method is anti-procrastination in action. So rather than checking email, then instagram, then facebook, then email again before starting your most important work try it the other way around.

Another huge benefit of doing the important stuff first thing in the morning is that we get this feeling of accomplishment and confidence which influences the rest of our day.

The best way to use this technique is to make a list of your top 3 (or less) most important tasks for the following day. If you wait until the day of, it’s much easier to procrastinate.

 

Turn Your Cell Phone Notifications Off

Every time we feel that little vibration in our pocket we are distracted from what we were just doing. Studies show that it takes at least 5 minutes to really focus on a task, and some people take up to an hour to focus on “deep work.” So every time we feel that little vibration in our pocket we have lose at least 5 minutes of focus. Turning off your phone notifications can save you a TON of time.

“But Mike, how will I know when @lilfitnessenthusiast801 comments on my picture of my boyfriend and I at the beach? I just can’t.”

Yes you can, and you should. This is one of the simplest and most effective ways of saving your time, attention, and energy for thing that actually matter.

“But Mike I’m an entreprenuer. If I miss a text from an employee, I could miss something important. I just can’t.”

Yes you can, and you should. If your business really does require YOU to handle every single decision, read the E-Myth, and learn to give your employees the power to make decisions for themselves.

We have 18 employees at Brute that are all allowed to think and make decisions for themselves, and I can check my phone a few times a day (rather than 50) without the business failing.

I understand that text and call notifications can be hard to let go of, but I urge you to at least turn off your social media notifications.

Try a 48 hour experiment where you turn them all off. If your life starts to fall apart, you can turn them back on.

I hope these techniques help you as much as they’ve helped me. I used to feel overwhelmed by the amount of work I had to do (still do occasionally). I also used to check email and social media like they were hits off a crack pipe (still do occasionally – the email/social media not the crack). By creating rules for myself, creating space for myself to do highly focused work, and removing temptations of constant checking of my phone, I rarely have those feelings anymore.

Say Yes

I spent many years of my life terrified of making friends, asking people to do things, and getting off the couch where I comfortably snacked and watched marathons on TV. I justified it by saying things like:

“I just love staying home. Going out is too stressful”

“I save so much money staying home”

“The perfect date for me is movie, pizza, and the couch”

The truth is that I was just afraid people wouldn’t like me, afraid of the discomfort that comes with making new friends, saying the wrong thing, and maybe embarrassing myself. I now understand that the couch will always be there and you can find every episode and movie imaginable on Netflix or iTunes. You’re not missing out on anything at home, it’s all happening out there!

Say yes.

Say yes when someone asks you to go to the park, to a movie, to dinner, or to a new area of town. Saying yes will make the times that you can sit on the couch lazily that much more satisfying and who knows, maybe you’ll have some new friends to join you!

Asking people to hang out, or agreeing to a social gathering is kind of like sex or working out. Sometimes you think you are just too tired, lazy, or sore. But really, have you ever regretted a great workout or some great sex?

Sensory Deprivation Tanks (Float Tanks)

Adee and I are headed to a Sensory Deprivation Tank (Float tank) this morning in Austin, and I just wanted to encourage you to try one out if you haven’t done so already.

A float tank is basically like a personal enclosed bath that is set to your body temperature and filled with salt so you float when you lay down in it. It is also pitch black, so there is literally no external sensory input. You’re stuck in your head!

The idea is that when you remove all of your physical senses, you can get into a deeply meditative state faster.  You also can physically relax like you’ve never felt before.

Float tanks are the most restorative thing (mind and body) I’ve ever experienced. I will be more relaxed and mellow for days after a float.   It feels like the equivalent of being in deep meditation.

I can’t recommend them highly enough. Most cities have them nowadays. Check it out, and please let me know your experience.

I’m So Full of Shit

If you’ve been following Zen-N-Juice since the beginning, then you know that the inspiration to start this blog came from an experience I had in Peru a few months ago involving my friend Bryce Astill.  He spent two weeks in a coma, and everyone thought he was going to die.

The way Bryce’s friends and family rallied together all over the world speaks to the kind of person he is.  Bryce is not a famous person, but literally thousands of people came together to donate and support him.  Every person he comes into contact with is affected in a positive way, and they ALL remember him.  I attribute a lot of my success and happiness to him leading the way.

Here is an article written by Bryce on his recent near-death experience (and others) and the perspective he’s taken from it.

 

I’m So Full of Shit

I’m not always full of shit. But nearly every time I don’t believe in myself and my ability to persevere and solve a problem in life, I am. The truth is I have everything I need in this and every moment to problem solve and thrive in life. Actions that go against that truth can make life tougher than necessary.

I guess I’ll introduce myself because some people reading won’t know me. My name is Bryce Astill. I’m from Salt Lake City, Utah. I am window cleaner specializing in Highrise work. Off and on I also work or have worked in Wilderness therapy programs for youth, substance abuse treatment centers, certified Mind Body Bridging instructor, as a running coach, and a as Crossfit coach.

I’m passionate about trail running, yoga, climbing, Crossfit, and especially family, friends, music, and connecting with others.

I’m 34 years old and have thus far packed in what feels like an enormous amount of life experiences. I never actually believed I would live this long, and a few times that has almost been the truth. Very recently again that was nearly the case.

The first few times I was near death was because of drug use. I was an alcohol, cocaine, and heroin addict for many years. It nearly killed me a few times. Through what felt like undeserved grace of life I went through treatment and have been able to remain sober since August of 2006.

I had become the worst version of myself and getting worse. I had a lot of reasons to believe I was piece of shit. I was a liar, thief, and all around degenerate. I couldn’t complete or follow through with anything. Especially if it was good for me. Treatment and ultimately working with others to share what others had shared with me worked.

It changed the trajectory of my life entirely. It felt like a second chance at life. Or a first chance really. One with real tools to build and create happiness for myself and others. To navigate the immense difficulties and complexities of life with the most simple tools. Simple, yet not easy. Today I have an enormous toolbox for life and continue to build it. I fail sometimes to use it, sometimes really epically…but to simply say my life is better than it was would be the understatement of the century.

Fast forward to a few months ago and I woke up on what was almost my deathbed in Lima, Peru staring at my best friend Michael Cazayoux and listening to him tell me that I’ve been in a coma for nearly two weeks and almost died.

It’s been a surreal experience to say the least. To say more it’s been confusing, heart wrenching (in the most positive way), and well…beautiful. We all know we are going to die (sorry to break this to you if this is the first time you’re hearing this), but in my experience there is nothing that highlights the preciousness of life better than a good tightrope act with death. I wish I could bottle up that experience and give it away to fight off the apathy and jadedness that can easily effect us all.

It woke me up. It forced me to face tough questions again about what the hell this is all for and what am I going to contribute? What allows me to be so lucky as to get to survive and be here? What will I do with that gift of another day?

From overcoming drug addiction and having that experience I learned how to answer those questions with better actions. I learned how to authentically live the life I actually wanted to live. It’s been tough at times. It’s still tough. This latest brush with death has reinvigorated all the lessons I learned from the previous times and added some more.

While I could go on and on about this I want to share just one key thing that this latest experience has taught me. Or re-taught me really. The power of community. Of being a part of something or many things bigger than yourself.

Stop trying to do everything alone.

No one of any great consequence or success ever did it alone. Ever. For years and years I attempted to solve my problems alone. (Still do too often). It’s never worked.

My problems compounded and became worse and worse. One of the most helpful tools I received in treatment was how to ask for and receive help from those who had walked the paths I needed to walk before me. It’s what allowed me to play a part in a community of recovery. Then a community of runners, cross fitters, yogis, climbers, and the greater larger community that I live in.

I learned how to be a contributor. One without expectation of anything in return. I ended up gaining so much more than I’ve ever given. Support, friendships, a feeling of being a part of, the joy of watching others grow, and most recently…my life! That last one is a pretty big one.

Friends in all of these communities rallied together for me and raised medical funds in the amount of $57,000. That amount covered all hospital bills and even some travel expenses for my family. In Peru the private hospitals need money up front and as you go for treatment. All covered by these amazing communities.

Even more impactful was the amazing kind words so many had for me. I got the rare experience of basically getting to die and hear what people would say about me. Except better because I didn’t actually die.

This brings me back (finally) to the title of this. I’m so full of shit. What do I mean by this?

So often in my life I have struggled to believe that I’m a person worthy of love and good things.

I beat myself up easily and often.

I sincerely believed something was inherently wrong with me and that I was doomed to always feel and be that way. I was wrong. I was really wrong, and if you believe this about yourself you are too.

I’ve come to learn there is nothing wrong with you that can’t be changed by what is right with you.

I learned that through communities of people who are striving to be better each day. One day at a time. Tim Ferris often repeats the statement that we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with. It’s worth reflecting on.

I learned about and started to experience my absolute value vs. my relative value.  What does that mean? We have tons of relative values in society and life. An example is a company has CEO and that person makes we’ll say $120,000/year. The factory worker for the same company may only make $30,000/year.

Our minds love to take these relative values and place what we or others are worth in general. We start to believe that we are worse or better than someone else based on these relative values and often times act accordingly within our lives and communities.

The problem is these types of comparisons fail to take in our absolute value. Who you are, the value and worth you provide to the world is infinite. It is beyond our mind’s comprehension.

It’s like if I handed you a piece of paper and asked you what it was you’d likely tell me it’s a piece of paper. But that paper is really much more than that. It’s the tree the paper came from and all the water, nutrients, and sunlight that grew that tree. It’s the factory it was made in and the people that created the factory and the method of making paper and so on and so on into the rabbit hole of creation. Your absolute value is that. It’s everything that has been, is, and will be. While it’s difficult to comprehend that it’s more important that we experience it. Moment to moment.

Waking up in Peru to the communities I’m a part of supporting me reminded me deeply of my absolute value. It took me weeks to get through the kind words that so many wrote of how I had affected their lives. What a gift. I had no idea in some cases. It’s what reminds me today when that negative, worthless views of myself creep in that I’m full of shit.

I’ll share what a friend wrote about me that filled me with so much joy even though my first internal response was to deny or discount most of it…

“While I am still connected, I would also like to take a minute and share with you. I am fortunate enough to have met someone this past year who has made me question my reality and what I perceive hard work to be. My imagination is put to the test when I begin to contemplate his achievements. I am talking about someone who has overcome addiction, started his own company, ran multiple ultra marathons, traveled the world under his own capacity, and the list goes on. BUT these accomplishments are NOT what I would like to emphasize. This individual is so kind hearted, committed, supportive, caring, mentally and emotionally strong that he FINDS or MAKES time to help his people in any endeavor when they need it. His aid ranges from pacing a friend for an extended run or race to potentially saving a life in a time of crises or panic that may rapidly manifest into a relapse or overdose. He does not take shortcuts. His manner of work and ethics demand respect because they are so thorough. He will endure any physical strain if he has made a commitment. (Period) His manner of existence in my opinion is impeccable. He also makes time to enjoy and pursue his passions i.e. travel, recreation, camping, motorcycling, biking, cooking, and spending time with his cat. During his travels in Puru this last month he fell ill while adventuring in the Andes. The pneumonia quickly evolved into pulmonary edema due to the altitude and before long my friend was in critical condition and even a transport to Lima to receive the proper medical aid was almost too dangerous. Local support for medical expenditures and many caring and beautiful people have made it possible to him to return home in one piece. From my understanding, my friend was in a coma, and battling for his life with the help of a ventilator last month and recently woke up and made the trip back to Salt Lake City last week….He did NOT forget to wish me a happy birthday. Bryce Astill, you my friend are extraordinary. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to question my morals. Thank you for setting an example worth fighting for. Thank you for defining what potential and perseverance actually mean. It’s good to have you back.” 

-Yan Brunjes 

I share this (uncomfortably) because it’s quite likely you have people in your community that feel the same about you or that you’ve effected in ways you have can’t even imagine.

Do something kind in your community for no other reason then to do something kind and watch the ripples.

Be a piece of something bigger than you in any way you can.

Be and act according to your absolute value and watch your life follow suit in every way.

When you believe that you aren’t worth anything, recognize that thought for the bullshit that it is. Recognize your absolute value and that it is not definable by yours and others thoughts, behaviors, and actions alone. Although it is enhanced and experienced by these when they are in alignment with your true self value.

You are worth more than you’ll likely ever know.