For the longest time I thought therapy was for people that were broken, weak, or had something “wrong” with them. Whenever I heard people mentioning “talking to a professional” it was always followed by discomfort, an awkward silence, or someone being offended. I automatically assumed therapy was something negative, something I would never need, something we needed to whisper about.
Over the past year my life has drastically changed. I went from being a full time student and athlete to running a company with 12 employees and thousands of active clients all while living in a new country with my new boyfriend. I have freedom of place and time, and I can honestly say I love my life. So many people think my life is “perfect” and I am “living the dream” so why on earth would I need therapy?
I met my boyfriend Michael Cazayoux and he completely changed my life. He is a recovering heroin addict and through that experience has been through years of therapy and treatment. I saw him living a life of honesty, vulnerability, and actively working every day on being a person of integrity. I wanted so much of what he had “figured out”. Nothing phased him, he rarely gets upset, talks bad about people, and always sees the good in those around him. Imagine being at an airport and your flight gets delayed, then the next one is over booked, you have to spend the night sleeping on the airport floor, and you miss 2 full days of your vacation. Michael would laugh, smile, and kindly tell the customer service agent “It’s okay, I know it’s not your fault.”
I wanted that. I wanted to be happy all the time and to feel like my emotions don’t control me. Michael attributes much of his current state of mind to the years he spent in rehab. This triggered curiosity in me. Do I need to “need” therapy to benefit from it?
Talking to a neutral third party, with no hidden agenda, that is experienced in mental health is for everyone and anyone. You don’t need to be an addict, have a mental breakdown, be diagnosed with a psychological disorder, or be struggling with anything serious at all. We all struggle with something and I can guarantee that you will be happier, healthier, and more successful after talking to a professional.
I have never had a rock bottom experience the same way Michael has but having someone to speak to where the focus is 100% on me has been one of the most eye opening experiences of my life. I vividly remember before my first appointment I thought to myself “What if I don’t have anything to talk about? I’m not really struggling with anything right now.” To my surprise 1 hour was not enough time. I have become better in every single way and have gotten to know depths of myself that I didn’t know existed.
I could grow and learn without professional help, but that’s like saying I could lose weight without a nutritionist, or do my taxes without an accountant. They are the experts for a reason, let them do what they do best. Taking the time to work on yourself is the most unselfish thing you can do. It will, without a doubt, be uncomfortable, painful, and bring up things you’ve spent years trying to bury, but it will be worth it.
Therapy is cool.